I remember when screenwriter Eric Roth spoke at Maui Writers Conference. He was as eloquent then (he'd written the #screenplay for Snow Falling on Cedars) as he is now with this line he wrote for The Curious Case of Benjamin Button, "Our lives are defined by opportunities; even the ones we miss."
Have you been presented with an opportunity?
Are you on the fence? Don't play it safe. Take the bolder of the options.
We are here to embrace opportunities, not to miss them.
George Eliot said, "Its never too late to be what you might have been" 150 years ago ... and it's as true today as when she first said it. When you were young, who did you want to be?
What did you want to do?
Where did you want to go?
It's only too late if you don't start now.
This quote from Nobel Prize winner Wislawa Symborska,"The little phrase 'I DON'T KNOW' is small, but flies on mighty wings" is from Maria Popova's excellent online newsletter Brain Pickings. Brain Pickings has been called a "literary LEGO treasure chest" of thought-provoking insights on how to lead a meaningful life.
Last week's issue was about the importance of NOT KNOWING and how embracing uncertainty is one of the secrets to an intriguing #life.
Every week Maria shares "rising tide raising all humans" essays and profound quotes that help us live a right life. Well worth reading and subscribing.
Are you happy with your current life? Satisfied with your relationships, health, finances and career? Congrats! If there are things that are not yet the way you want them to be, the answer is simple.
Do things differently. Old ways won't open new doors.
Select one area of your life you want to improve.
What is one thing you can start doing or stop doing today that is different than your norm?
How will you change things up by NOT doing things the way you always have?
Dulce Ruby said, "Just like the moon; we go through different phases."
What a new phase? Try some new ways. 
A reporter asked Shark Tank investor and Dallas Mavericks owner Mark Cuban, "When you die, who do you want to come back as?" Guess what he said?
"ME!"
Who would you want to come back as ... and why?
Love is the question and the answer. At the end of our #life, what we will remember, what will remain, what will matter is:
"Did we love? Were we loved?"
You know what I've found? Another way to get started is to stop THINKING and start DOING.
It's easy to over-think things. We go back and forth, "Should I do this or this? Is this better or that?"
In the long run this indecisiveness - this quest to have all our ducks in a row before we go - just delays action and doesn't necessarily guarantee better results.
It's SMARTER to be a STARTER and and course correct along the way.
What is ONE thing on your mind you've been wanting to do? Don't just want it. Start it.
Life is a window of opportunity. Have you ever thought of it that way?
We are here for a certain amount of time.
Are you taking advantage of your precious window of opportunity to pursue your dreams, connect with loved ones, do what makes you happy?
Henry Miller said, "Life is, for most of us, one long postponement."
What is something you're postponing?
How will you start that, do that, bring more of that into your life THIS WEEK instead of putting it off?
Abundance is about so much more than money. Anything that enriches us contributes to our abundance.
That includes new and enduring friendships, enjoyable discoveries, being active outdoors, achieving important goals, connecting with loved ones, learning new skills, contributing to our community.
Anytime we do something that puts the light on in our eyes, we are richer for it.
Anything we do that contributes to our physical and mental well-being results in us being wealthy in what really matters.
How about you? Are you wealthy in what really matters? Are you appreciating the abundance in your life in all its forms?
When I announced my plans to embark upon my Year by the Water adventure, most people were happy for me and said something along the lines of, “Take me with you!” A few, however, expressed “concerns. A meeting planner cautioned me with, “Sam, I hope you know you’re taking a risk by taking yourself off the grid. You need to control this story or the business you’ve worked so hard to build may not be here when you come back. You know, you can’t put the genie back in the bottle.”
A highly successful investor told me, "I'm envious, but I could never just do nothing. I'd go crazy if I didn't work."
Another wanted to know, “Is something wrong?” In other words, “Are you sick, on your deathbed or just having a mid-life crisis?”
I listened to their concerns, and then assured them my decision to take my business on a road trip wasn’t a mid-life CRISIS, it was mid-life CLARITY. I was clear that:
I wasn’t QUITTING work – I was doing a different KIND of work.
I wasn’t doing NOTHING – I was doing SOMETHING that put the light on in my eyes just thinking about it.
There wasn’t anything WRONG with my life – I was taking steps to create a more RIGHT life.
And I certainly wasn’t going to hide this from my business community, I was going to invite them to come along so they could vicariously experience the adventures and insights with me.
What helped me get this mid-life clarity?
Well, a lot of things. One was something my son Andrew told me. Another was a health scare and the doctor warning me I better take better care of myself or my body would do something more drastic to get my attention.
Another was a variety of quotes that served as wake-up calls and motivated me to “get a move on.”
They included Paulo Coelho’s sober reminder, “One day you’re going to wake up and there won’t be any time left to do the things you’ve always wanted to do.”
Another was my clarity of how fortunate I am to be in a position to answer what called me.
I’m not one of the 65 million people (29% of the U.S. population) taking care of a chronically ill, disabled or aged friend or family member. I can operate my business from anywhere. And while I’m not independently wealthy, I’m wealthy in what matters. I have the health, freedom and autonomy to disrupt my life and do things differently.
There was nothing holding me back … so I took eighteen months to swim with dolphins, watch the sun rise over Diamond Head, take a photography workshop in Monet’s Garden, sail the Chesapeake Bay, drive the back-roads of America (and almost over a cliff on California’s Pacific Coast Highway) ... write about my experiences and epiphanies.
I will always be grateful for that adventure. It was one of the most deeply satisfying experiences of my life.
What I didn't anticipate was My Year by the Water ended up NOT being about the water.
Yes, I visited some of nature's wonders - oceans, waterfalls, mountain streams - but what made this experience so memorable and pivotal wasn't the places I visited; it was the disruptive epiphanies that challenged everything I thought I knew about what it takes to lead a meaningful life.
Aristotle said, “An unexamined life is not worth living."
Well, after going 24/7 for the past few decades, this trip gave me the time and space to reflect on my life.
What I discovered, much to my surprise, was that many of my life-long beliefs and behaviors like “It’s better to give than receive” and “Winners never quit and quitters never win” "Hard work is the secret to success" – were not contributing to a quality life; they were compromising it.
As a result of having time to examine what was working, what wasn’t and what I was going to do differently; my life has been enriched in ways that are better than I could have imagined.
I know you’re busy and may not have the incentive or resources to take a road trip.The good news? You don’t have to quit your job, win the lottery, get a divorce or walk away from your obligations to embark upon a "virtual" road trip. In my upcoming book Chase Meaning Not Clicks, you can vicariously experience those put-you-in-the-scene adventures in short chapters, all which can be read in under 10 minutes.
What's even better, ou don't have to wait for the book to come out in early 2018 to benefit from those insights. Here are my top ten lessons-learned. Hope they give you the CLARITY, incentive and inspiration to do more of what puts the light on in your eyes starting today ... not someday.
1. A Life We Love Is Often One Small Change Away
2. We’re Not Torn Between Two Worlds – We Have the Best of Both Worlds
3. Why Do We Keep Driving Into Hurricanes?
4. If We’re Lonely, We’re Not Paying Attention
5. Courage Is Trusting We Can Figure Things Out Along the Way
6. It’s Not Selfish To Put Yourself in Your Own Story
7. There Is No Present Like The Time To Do More of What Puts The Light On In Your Eyes
8. Figure Out What You Want to Do NEXT and Start Doing It NOW
9. Fun Is Not a Four-Letter Word
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One of the great joys of my life is having the opportunity to share my adventures/insights at conferences. If you're planning a program and would like a presentation that gives your participants an opportunity to connect, reflect, and identify what they can do to stop waiting and start creating a life where the light is on in their eyes, contact Cheri@IntrigueAgency.com. It'd be a pleasure and a privilege to share these inspiring stories with your group so they're creating the quality of life and work they want now, not someday.
Looking ahead, where do you want to go? 
What would you like to do?
Who would you like to meet?
Get clear about ONE thing that could make your life more satisfying, meaningful or joyful.
Then, do ONE thing this week to set that in motion. Pick up the phone. Register for that course. Sign up for that sports league. Plant that garden. Reach out to that person.
As Anna Quindlen says, "The life you've led doesn't need to be the only life you have."
A better life is often only one small change away. Do something differently today.
What is one place you want to experience that you haven't yet? 
The Northern Lights? Pyramids in Egypt? Taj Mahal in India? Great Wall in China?
Don't just put it on your list, put it on your calendar.
As soon as you do, your dream becomes tangible.
You can set aside money, make reservations, arrange for time off.
Before you know it, you're THERE, proving to yourself you can make your life what you want it to be.
It doesn't even have to be far away.
Where is a place within an hour of your home you'd like to explore?
Go there this week. Experience how good it feels to travel and discover someplace new, how it energizes you and reminds you can make your life more of what you want it to be now ... not someday.
At a conference in L.A.recently, the emcee opened the meeting by reading Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes profound essay, "Do No Lose Heart: We Were Made For These Times." 
If you're not already familiar with her inspiring piece, please check it out. It is full of hope-building insights such as...
"In any dark time, there is a tendency to veer toward fainting over how much is wrong or un-mended in the world. Do not focus on that. That is spending the wind without raising the sails.
"There will always be times ...when you feel discouraged. I too have felt despair in my life, but I do not keep a chair for it; I will not entertain it. It is not allowed to eat from my plate."
You can read the full piece here - http://www.dailygood.org/…/do-not-lose-heart-we-were-made-…/
What enduring wisdom from Pema Chodron, "Nothing ever really goes away until it has taught us what we need to know." 
So true.
If the light is NOT on in my eyes, it's a sure sign I need to change things UP.
If I find myself dealing with something again; it's a sure sign I need to do it differently or I will find myself dealing with it ... again.
Abraham Lincoln said this more than 150 years ago, "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be," and it's as true today as when he first said it. 
Even when we are in the midst of daunting circumstances, there is still so much to be happy about and grateful for.
Your thoughts?
Dale Carnegie suggested we live in "day-tight compartments." I agree it's wise to focus on what we can do to make TODAY the best day possible instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.
One way we can do that is to focus on an inspiring quote every morning that helps us lead a right life where the light is on in our eyes.
To help myself and others do that, I will be positing a motivational quote every morning to help us live in day-tight, "day-right" compartments.
Hope you'll check back every morning - or follow this page so the quote shows up in your feed - so you can be inspired by insights that showcase the best of human-KIND, that keep gratitude top-of-mind, and that help you make every day the blessing it deserves to be.
P.S. I know you're busy so each post will be less than 100 words and take less than 1 minute to read. You've got a minute a day to read an inspiring insight that puts the light on in your eyes, right?
Did you know: * 48% of people say they are tired every single day of the week? * 52% of people feel unappreciated and would quit their job if they could? * that WORK -and the stress leading to it- are now the fifth leading cause of death in the U.S.?
Why are we doing this to ourselves?
I believe it's because "our strength taken to an extreme becomes our Achilles Hell." (Not a typo).
And for many of us, our "strength" is that we want to be a good person. We want to be responsible.
So we go to work and take care of customers and coworkers. We come home and take care of our family. In our community, we take care of friends, neighbors, the people on our church committee, community association board, local sports team or service club.
The question is, are we so busy taking care of everyone else - we have neglected our own priorities, dreams and goals? At what cost?
I believe it's not selfish to do more of what puts the light on in our eyes, it's smart. Here's why I've come to believe it's important to set our SerenDestiny in motion now - not someday.
Several years ago, I had breakfast with Ivan Misner, founder of BNI, (one of the world's largest networking organizations.) After hearing about my full calendar and nonstop travel, he asked, "What do you do for fun?"
Long pause. I finally dug deep and came up with "I walk my dog around the lake."
Please don't get me wrong. I'm grateful to do work I love that matters; it's just that I was going 24/7. (Sound familiar?)
My conversation with Ivan, a health-scare and several other wake-up calls motivated me to do a pattern interrupt.
I gave away 95% of what I owned and took my business on the road for a Year by the Water. I visited oceans, lakes, rivers and waterfalls and wrote about my adventures and insights.
(And yes, I realize how fortunate I am to be at a certain age and stage in my career where I had the freedom, autonomy and wherewithal to do that.)
Do you know what I didn't predict? That my Year by the Water ended up NOT being about the water.
Yes, I swam with dolphins, sailed the Chesapeake Bay and had many memorable times in, on and around the water.
But what turned that trip into a life-changer were the unplanned experiences and disruptive epiphanies that caused me to realize my S.O.P - Standard Operating Procedure - was sadly outdated.
To my surprise, I discovered many of my default beliefs/behaviors - what I thought were right, true, and good - were wrong.
For example, I discovered:
• Hard work is not the secret to success, it's not even close • We need to quit watering dead plants • Fun is not a four-letter word • It's never too late to have a fresh start * Self-sacrifice serves no one • You’ve got to have a dream for a dream to come true
Many of the people I met during my travels told me they felt conflicted, torn, locked into a lifestyle that's nothing like they imagined or expected.
On one hand, they're grateful for their kids, spouse, job, etc.
On the other hand they feel they don't have the freedom to do what makes them happy. The well-meaning model of being responsible to everyone but yourself is producing a generation of unhappy, unhealthy people who are leading a life that is nothing like the one they want and deserve to lead.
It’s time to disrupt what being a “good person," what leading a "good life" looks like.
Rest assured, I am not suggesting we ignore others' needs and think only of our own. I'm suggesting we get clear about our values and priorities - and start creatimg a life that's more in alignment with that NOW, not someday.
What really matters to you – now and in the long run - is deeply personal. Only you can figure out what that is for you.
The good news is, this SERENDESTINY site (and my upcoming book Someday is Not a Day in the Week) can help you start putting yourself back in your own story.
I hope you'll come back and visit frequently. You may find just the right quote, eye-opening insight or inspiring success story to motivate you to do something TODAY that puts the light on in your eyes.
Trust me, you will never regret clarifying what puts the light on in your eyes and bringing more of that into your life; you will only regret not doing it ... sooner.
